Do you have a hard time asking for help?

So, there I was the other day with a post-dislocated shoulder that still aches, trying to haul a half dozen grocery bags from the car to the house in one fell swoop. And of course the shoulder hurt more afterwards.

So I had to ask, “Why, Janet, do you do these things to yourself?”

I have the hardest time asking others for help. Do you have this problem?

It may be due to a mix of these feelings:
– fear of rejection
– a desire not to impose
– and . . . a bit of “shouldn’t he/she/they just know?”

But maybe there’s an unhealthy dose of the Martyr Syndrome. Maybe I want all the credit. Maybe I want to look all self-sufficient and competent.

However, over the years such a mixed bag of attitudes has led to dropped bags of groceries, trips and falls, and a lot of frustration and resentment.

If the all-important King David asked for help, I can, too.

Perhaps you’d like to take this pledge with me:

I, ______________, pledge to ask for help when I need it. I acknowledge that I can’t do it all. I also recognize that others have gifts and talents that are better than mine and would be happy to help me. And I determine that even if those people say NO, that I will not consider that a personal rejection but just God’s way of directing me elsewhere.

Whew! I feel better! Now, who’d like to make me dinner tonight?

Janet McHenry is an award-winning speaker and the author of 24 books, including the bestselling PrayerWalk and her newest, The Complete Guide to the Prayers of Jesus. She would LOVE to be considered as the speaker for your next event. 

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